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A few facts and questions While this paper cannot be a definitive guide to the nature of an abuser, the victim's relationship with the abuser, and society's part in encouraging gender bias, I hope it will add to the pool of knowledge.
It is my hope that, at least a small way, this paper will be an aid towards helping us all understand the nature of domestic abuse and those who perpetrate or encourage it. It makes no difference what gender the abusive personality is, their primary skill is to emulate normal behaviour in order to disguise their own condition.
This is often one of the most confusing and distressing aspects of abuse from the victim's point of view. It is also a situation that the abuser will exploit with varying degrees of vicious skill. The question is; what is going on in the abusers mind that causes them to suddenly, or gradually, become abusive to their new partner?
It appears that the abusive personality has learned, by observation and by mimicry of those around them, how to give every appearance of normality and stability for often quite extended periods of time.
This means that they are able to convince new partners that they are really charming, wonderful people who should be trusted and are worthy of love and care. This act is easy to maintain in certain social situations and where the abuser has minimal contact with others in an average day.
Another social situation may be one of casual friendships made in pubs and clubs. Under these conditions the actor abuser need only be convincing as a normal person for a minimum amount of time. This is why many friends of the abuser find it hard to believe that the person they think they know could be capable of such barbarity within a long-term relationship.
In the case of female abusers, this difficulty is compounded by social and political myths that see females only as victims and not as perpetrators. For the abusive actor, maintaining the act of normality within a long term relationship is almost impossible.
The intensity of the time spent in the company of the victim means the emotional strain placed on the pretender, by their need to hide their true selves, becomes too difficult to maintain.
The act breaks down and the real personality disguised beneath it rushes to the surface. The victim, often still in love with the abuser, begins to make excuses for the abuser's behaviour, mentally sweeping it under the carpet and falsely believing that things will get better in time.
This is not difficult to understand. It is natural for the victim to assume that the other person has made the same efforts as they have and this primes them to accept the abuser's excuses and rationalizations of their behaviour.
The abuser's self-view Top An abusive personality is fundamentally one of self loathing and even self hate. However, this self disgust is too painful for them to accept. The denial can be very profound and will drive their negative feelings about themselves very deeply within their tortured psyche.
Many abusers are deeply frightened and horrified by their violent outbursts but their denial prevents them from dealing with the feelings that cause them. Therefore, when they lose control and abuse another, there often follows what looks like deep and sincere repentance and begging for forgiveness, only to sink back into the same patterns again later on.
Given enough time, even these feelings of regret and remorse will become buried and their emotional attitude to their abuse of others will harden into a cold uncaring outlook.
For this reason, I believe it is vital that treatment be applied to the abuser while they still own feelings of remorse and regret. Treatment of the abuser will become progressively more difficult over time as the abuser will lack the necessary need and drive to want to reform.The Hollywood Reporter is your source for breaking news about Hollywood and entertainment, including movies, TV, reviews and industry blogs.
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